The Found Self

Writing on self-development and personal growth coaching

Topics

The essays are grouped under five labels. The grouping is practical rather than theoretical: these are the five places where the same questions keep coming back, and an essay sits under the one it spends most of its length on.

Sessions 2 essays

How a structured conversation works, what it can reach that private thinking cannot, and what the person being coached has to bring to it.

Goals 2 essays

Setting an aim that fits the week you actually have, and knowing what to do when the aim stops moving.

Habits 2 essays

The practical mechanics of repeated behaviour: friction, defaults, entry points, and why willpower is the least reliable part of the system.

Attention 2 essays

Where the hours go, what the voice in your head is reporting, and how to look at both without immediately trying to fix them.

Decisions 1 essay

Choices that resist ordinary comparison, especially the ones where every option available to you is genuinely good.

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